Coaching & Therapy

NLP COACHING & REGRESSION THERAPY

Coaching is aimed at achieving goals, so we work with a view into the desired future. For example, regarding what the ideal relationship that the client desires should look like. We will set the necessary steps to achieve the goal.

Coaching is enriched with elements of regression analysis, where we return to the past, identify where blocks arose in the past that cause recurring problems today. For example, the feeling of not being accepted in childhood often causes, among other things, the repeated choice of inappropriate partners.

Subsequently, we transform these blocks using exercises that can be compared to regression therapy.

I can help you with these topics:

– Preparing to find a good relationship

– Overcoming repeating relationship issues

– Gaining more confidence

– Recovering from loss or a break-up

– Overcoming codependency

– Developing self-love

– Overcoming fear of public speaking

– Limiting beliefs about own skills and possibilities

– Knowing what you really want and power to go after it

– Deciding regarding a change in your career

– Childhood or other traumas

WHAT IS NLP: NEURO - LINGUISTIC PROGRAMMING

NLP is scientific method that helps discover the deeply hidden subconscious obstacles, transform them and integrate back in your subconsciousness.

When you know ONLY LOGICALLY what is good for you, you often miss the power to take action. However, when ideas are INTEGRATED IN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUSNESS, you take action automatically.

Thanks to this method we can change how you feel about certain past events and change your automatic reactions in a variety of problematic situations. When your inner reality changes, people around you and circumstances also adjust in your accordingly.

For example, “suddenly” you start attracting interesting people who were unreachable for you before.

M-RAY METHOD - SPECIALIZED EXTENSION OF NLP

I connected NLP with energy levels, drawing from the teachings of David R. Hawkins and incorporating my own research and case studies. I was tempted to analyze everything, write it down in various Excel tables and create models of optimal functioning. I applied it primarily to the topic of relationships and self-confidence.

Today, thanks to this, I can quickly analyze the client’s needs at which level we need to work, considering the symptoms they tell me about. Thanks to the precise targeting of the “M-Ray method” at the origin of the problem, it gained also interest among psychologist, as a tool to speed up the progress in therapy.

HOW DOES OUR COOPERATION WORK

Contact me at info@michaelaray.com to set up the free 15-30 min call to get to know each other.

Based on the introductory call, you decide, whether this method is suitable for you and you want to start with private coaching.

We start with a detailed intake session which lasts 1.5 hours and costs 150 EUR. We will discuss your specific situation and establish a plan towards your goal.

We start a cycle of 6 sessions. It is short enough to focus on your chosen topic and long enough to see the results achieved.

The sessions last around 1.5-2 hours, depending on the topic you want to work on. We can meet in my office in Duffel or work online via Google meet, FB messenger call ect.

The frequency of meeting depends on your preference, I recommend scheduling it between 1-3 weeks to have enough time to process the exercises as well as to keep the momentum going.

Price is 100 EUR / 60 min, (150 EUR / 90 min, 200 EUR / 120 min). The amount is paid after each session by a bank transfer.

After the end of the cycle, we will review the results together. You decide if you would like to work on the next goal or if you are satisfied with the result and do not need further coaching.

SAMPLE CASE STUDIES

– INNER CONFLICT AND MOVING FORWARD

A 34 year old man was able to finally start a relationship after he let go of the fear of being controlled and losing his freedom.
A 40 year old woman moved to Switzerland, to follow her dream, after overcoming guilt and confusion.
A 35 year old woman realized that her attraction to “players” was caused by conflicting interests between freedom and relationship. She is now happy in a committed relationship. Update 18 months later – the proud parents just announced the birth of their first son.

– DOUBTS ABOUT POSSIBILITY TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP

A 28 year old woman , who never had a relationship before was able to let go of her past and finally meet a partner, they are now 5 years together, raising a daughter.

– LIMITING BELIEFS ABOUT SEX

A 50 year old woman had a block against having sex, as it was something “wrong and shameful”, now she feels in control of making her choices.

– ANXIETY FROM LONELINESS

A 31 year old man was able to start seeing the light at the end of tunnel in comparison with 2 depressing months alone in Belgium. It helped him with faster integration and feeling of belonging.

– SELF WORTH, RELATED TO CHILDHOOD TRAUMA

A 51 year old woman was able to see her early childhood in a different perspective. As a result she has more compassion for her parents and changed the conclusions about that experience – it wasn’t really about her, so her identity doesn’t have to hold this burden.
A 30 year old woman had a similar experience as above. Before the exercise, spending a few days with her mother was guaranteed fight. After the exercise she was able to remain calm and compassionate, and only had some smaller exchange of opinion, despite spending 3 weeks together in one apartment.

– SELF DOUBT AND CODEPENDENCY

A 48 year old woman discovered that many of her limiting beliefs were (unreasonable) standards of other people imposed on her in childhood and that feelings of shame was keeping her stuck in self sabotaging behavior. After transforming the shame, she was able to set up her own standards. As a consequence a lot of anger and sadness was released from her body, allowing her to process these stuck emotions. She is now more aware of her own boundaries and not blindly pulled into unsuitable relationships.

– BEING A VICTIM

A 64 year old woman felt like a less worthy person and a victim next to another women who “stole” her boyfriend ten years ago. After the exercise she was able to see the other woman as a human with flaws, acting out of her weakness. This helped the 64 year old to no longer see herself as a victim but rather the more ethical person.
A 45 year old man was able to discover his part of the responsibilty in the arguments with his ex-wife, which made him less angry at her, when he also understood her perspective.
A 32 year man was able to see the bigger picture in an argument with his colleague, who was getting on his nerves. He realized they are trying to achieve the same goal, but with their completely different talents and point of views. They agreed with the manager to split their roles in this goal, so that they could both use their core talents.

– LOSS OF A LOVED PERSON & MISCARRIAGE

The grieving process exercise helped me personally overcome many years long grief of a loss of my unborn child and the fear that it would never work again. I was able to finally meet the child in a virtual way. Before, I thought of it as the “poor little dead baby”, but through this experience, I felt like the spirit of the child was ok and simly had other things to do. This was very emotional, but afterwards I felt a huge relief. The next month after the exercise, I became pregnant, despite being already 37.
Same exercise on another occasion helped me keep the good memories related to my ex-husband close to my heart, without feeling sad about the divorce. We reached a point, where we are mutually at peace with each other. This contributed to having a clean start of my new relationship, without bringing old problems into it.
A 48 your old woman was grieving the loss of a dream – she never had children despite her desire to have them. She found a relief and unexpectingly reconnected with an inner part of herself, that feels beautiful, free to express self and happy to live in joy.

– SETTING UP BOUNDARIES

A 39 year old man was always behaving like a “good boy”, due to limiting beliefs (in order to keep love of important people). He felt trapped, helpless and frustrated, but never expressed his anger. Learning how to express anger in a safe place, helped him release some of the build up anger from many years, which reduced the feeling of helplessness. On the contrary, he felt more resolute and strong, by naming and expressing his emotions.

FOR WHO IS THE COACHING NOT SUITABLE

The coaching & regression therapy requires your commitment and energy in order to make a progress.

The exercises that have the fastest result and biggest impact on improving your life, are usually on the level of your identity. This also means, that you can have potentially a strong physical / mental reaction in the days after the exercise. For example having a temporary headache, back pain, stomach pain or intense anger or a need to cry out the grief, collected over time. This is not bad, it is part of the mental detox and a confirmation something major has shifted. Finally the stuck emotions can be released and stop causing you problems. Healthy and stable people can process this and feel a lot of relief and sense of progress afterwards.

However, for people who are unstable mentally or practically, this might be too much to handle and they might feel overwhelmed by the process. They might not have the energy or commitment that is required to go through.

In case you suffer from severe depression, psychosis, if you have recent suicidal thoughts or if your overall life is unstable or stuck in multiple aspects (such as having no job, major health problems, lack of reason to live, …), then the coaching is not suitable for you. Instead, working with a doctor or a psychiatrist would be a better choice.